Wednesday, March 4, 2015
3 Tips for Holding Yourself Accountable
How do you hold yourself accountable?
Accountability is very important to me. I want to hold myself accountable to be an awesome parent, Christian, daughter, sister, girlfriend, and even a great blogger. As a single mother, I often find that I'm the only one that can hold myself accountable (I take that back, my kids will hold me accountable often!) I will sometimes ask a family member (or even the childcare provider) how I can do things better when the going gets tough because I want to grow and do the right thing.
To me, accountability is about integrity.
It's about working out when I feel lazy because my kids deserve a healthy mom and God gave me a body I need to take care of it.
It's about going to church because it's what I believe is the right thing.
It's about not yelling at my kids even though I'm so exhausted and don't have one ounce of patience left in my body.
It's about getting down on my kids level, looking them in the eye and telling them what I need from them.
It's about being honest with myself about who I really am and what I REALLY need.
It's about surrounding myself with the right people even if it means saying no to someone I love because .
It's about making that call about a bill that I keep putting off.
It's about making sure I'm on time for things.
It's about getting myself out of bed to write an article that needs to be posted by the end of the week.
Being accountable is about making all those little decisions on a daily basis that add up to my overall integrity/goals. It's always easy to see what other people could be doing better but how do you look in the mirror and take responsibility for your own actions? Martial arts really helped me learn to hold myself accountable and I wrote about it in this post Lessons about Self Discipline.
1. Write a journal. I've learned through challenging times like divorce and lay offs to really listen to my heart. I've asked people for advice that really have no idea about blogging or what's truly deep in my heart. If I barely know what I want or need then how is someone else going to know? Journaling is a great way to uncover some of your truths and develop a friendship with the person that matters most, you.
2. Ask friends and family. I know this contradicts #1 but hear me out. There are many times when we need to listen to how our actions affect other people and that may mean asking them for their opinion. If you have people in your life that you respect and trust, ask them what you could do differently
3. Write Goals. After you uncover your truths in your journal, writing goals is what makes things happen. If your goal is to lose weight (for example) I encourage you to write down a plan and start thinking of yourself as a healthier person. Then write out a clear plan for how you are going to make that happen. Personally, I try to complete about 85% of my goals and allow myself some wiggle room for mistakes.
For me, I know that I'm likely to get depressed and/or sick when my choices are not lining up with my goals and values. I need to know when I put my head on the pillow at night that MOST of my choices are good ones.
Now it's your turn...how do you hold yourself accountable? I would love to hear your ideas!