There seems to be this superhero image of parents who work
from home….they appear to be able to juggle it all, not have to pay for
childcare, and still be home with their kids…but to be honest working full time and being home with your kids
sounds unrealistic and exhausting. How
is that possible? What’s the cost? Are
your kids really happy that your home with them if your constantly asking them
to be quiet or putting them in front of the t.v? What are your thoughts?
Ok...I admit it...
I'm a recovering drama queen...
I used to get swept up in the latest drama.... and I still catch myself getting caught up in gossip (or even sometimes spreading gossip myself!)...but I don't like it. I don't like it one bit.
When I hear a headline story about “a train crash with dead
bodies still screaming for help” I admit I sometimes click on these heart
wrenching stories but then I start to feel really sad and upset….but some
people love hearing these stories. I don’t
understand. I know these people are not bad people so why do they get such a
thrill from hearing about these tragedies?
Why do people watch the news every day and talk about the latest
When I got separated, and started writing about my feelings
about divorce my readers/views DOUBLED then as my life started getting better,
many of those people faded. So, why is
that we are so attracted to drama? While
I think that our minds natural gravitate towards something that is exciting,
don’t people get that sad feeling and begin worrying about the people affected
by these tragedies? Have we lost our
sense of empathy? About a year ago, someone posted a picture of a vehicle flipped
over on a road near me. The vehicle looked
like my ex husband’s vehicle (which was carrying my 2 children at the time) and
I was more than horrified for the next 45 minutes until I found out it was not
I realize that to be an active member of society it’s
necessary to read things that are not always pleasant. I force myself to stay current on the latest
news even though it’s not always what I want to hear. But, my question remains, why? Why do we like
drama so much? Why can’t we focus on the good things life has to offer? Why can't we focus on each others strengths instead of tragedy?
Are you wondering how to be a successful single parent? Well, the first question is how do you define success? Having happy
kids? Being happy yourself? Being able to pay your bills? Having a good career? Remarrying?
Having a clear definition of success is extremely important because otherwise
we’re just going through the motions…paying our bills, changing diapers,
cleaning, working, helping our mom, going
out to dinner, etc….you can begin to feel like a robot...and we all feel that sometimes....but what is it that you REALLY WANT??
Being a single parent is similar to a wheel barrow. One parent represents the tiny wheel holding a lot of
weight on top and wobbling around like crazy. Paying the household bills with one income is
hard for both parents and trying to juggle kids with only 2 hands is impossible
at times. So, how do we do it and can we be successful???? Here are a few ideas that have helped me....
1 1. Define success. Take 5 minutes right now to write down what
you want your life to look like.
2.2. Ask for help. It takes a village to raise children and you’re
being selfish if you think that your child only needs you. Your child needs a variety of support, ideas,
and encouragement and your delusional if you think you can do it all. If you’re telling me that you do not have any help. STOP! You're just giving me an excuse. Make
friends that will help you, go to a church, or find a way to afford babysitting
a few hours here and there.
being a victim. Let’s be real. It’s understandable that you’re angry but you’re
the one in charge of your life. You may
have anger at your ex but the real anger is because you are not happy with where
your life is right now and your ex is an easy target. Believe me, I've been there!!
. 4. Practice gratitude. Maybe your life is not where you wanted it to
be when you dreamed of growing up and having a cute little family with a picket fence...but drowning in your sorrow
is not going to move you forward. Write
down 10 things every day that are great in your life. Remember, it could always be worse!