Wednesday, May 14, 2014

How to say no more and yes less in order to create the life you want

I'm a "yes girl".
I admit it.
I want to be a team player.  I want to help other people. I want to be the girl that people can depend on.

But HERE's the problem....

If I say yes to something ("Toni, will host the family Thanksgiving dinner" for example) then I need to think about the big picture and ask myself if that makes sense for my IMMEDIATE family.  The question becomes, am I able to devote the time and money to that commitment? Will this be beneficial to myself and my children OR will I be losing time AND can I realistically afford it?  Will I be resentful?

EVERY time you say YES to something you are saying NO to something else (even if it's working out, quality time with the kids, or just sleep!) 

Michael Hyatt does an amazing podcast called This is your life (if you haven't heard him speak before you should REALLY check him out!)  During one of his recent podcasts he talked about how many people approach him asking him to read their book and how often he says no.  This really stood out to me because this guy is an AMAZING speaker and author that helps so many people.  What I realized is that when he says no to helping the little people he's actually saying YES to the time he needs to make his podcasts even better (which actually helps MORE people!)  What I'm saying is that Michael Hyatt is extremely successful because he's perfected the art of saying no!

No matter what you do in your you are a stay at home mom, CEO, teacher...the question becomes, "If you never say no, what's your yes worth?"Are you protecting the things that matter to you most?

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