I have learned this lesson so many times and yet I continue to fall in the trap. You know the deal, there are many sayings that basically give the same message..."it takes 2 to tango" "letting someone live in your head rent free" or my favorite, "never wrestle with a pig in the mud, you will get dirty and the pig will like it." All of these sayings have the same message, you can choose to be part of the problem or part of the solution! So, what does this mean for you as a parent? We have choices!
Children often create "drama" to get attention or to avoid something they don't want to do. Basically, we have the choice as parents to argue or not to argue.It takes two people to argue and children will argue if they can (or because they can):) Of course, some arguing (or discussing) is inevitable, but remember that children often do things because they CAN and if you participate than you may be contributing to the problem instead of the solution! The next time you find yourself in an argument with your child, try to figure out another way to solve the problem or evaluate your role in the situation! Sometimes, it really does take 2 to tango!