Sunday, June 1, 2014

What has helped me get through my divorce

1.  Set healthy boundaries.  I can't say it enough.  When you are going through a divorce (or a challenging time in your life) PLEASE limit time spent with people who don't share your values and make you happy.  When you're going through a divorce, you become a MAGNET for other people going through challenging times. TAKE CAUTION!  You can only give what you receive and if you aren't receiving a lot of love, support, and positive energy then you are going to go down.  If you have family members that are also going through a challenging time, it's ok to limit your time spent with them.  I'm sure there will be a time when you have more to give but right now you need all the energy you can muster.  If there are people you follow on Facebook that are always complaining, just unfollow them-they will never know.  This kind of negativity can emotional drain you and cause you to lose track of what you're trying to accomplish in your life.

2.  Gain a NO EXCUSES approach.  Start taking responsibility of your life.  If you aren't happy, find out why.  See a therapist (a good one) and start taking control over the life you create.  Everyone has challenging days but if the same challenges keep coming up maybe it's time to take a new approach.

3.  Get sleep.  Divorce is exhausting.  If you are working 5 jobs and find yourself exhausted, try to really think about how you can use your time more effectively or maybe find ONE job that pays better.  Sleep is important.

4.  Maintain HEALTHY habits.  Your body needs all the help it can get right now and if you're putting crap in it and not exercising, don't expect much in return.  Start today by eating things that are green and limiting alcohol/caffeine intake.  Remember all these little choices we make can have a big impact on our lives.


  1. I cannot imagine how hard it must be. Hang in there. This is great advice. xo

  2. Thanks so much JoLynne!! It's humbling and I've learned a lot about myself along the way.